There’s a lot of talk about saying “No”. Especially in the world of motherhood, where we are often stretched paper thin between the social calendar, the work duties and parenting, learning to say No can be a challenge: “No, I cannot be Lead Parent for the little league team (I’m starting a business this year and will need all the extra time I have,”) “No I cannot meet for dinner this week (sitting with a glass of wine and watching HGTV is on my mental calendar instead,”) “No, I won’t be able to host the event (being at ease and having fun with the family is more important to me).” The truth is, learning to say no offers us the opportunity to say “yes” to something else instead.

So, what do we say “Yes” to?

Susan Jeffers, in her book “Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway”, says to say yes to your Universe – which simply means saying yes to the opportunities that you truly desire. Even if they scare you. By learning to say no to the obligations, the “shoulds” in life, we are learning to say yes to our actual values. Saying yes to starting a business may not be the easiest Yes, but it might be the life-changing career shift you’ve been waiting for. Saying yes to self-care might come across as selfish to some, but it’s always best for the whole in the end. And saying yes to fun and ease instead of struggle will put you in the mindset for even more opportunities since you’ll be tapping into your highest energy.

As you bring your awareness around your highest personal values – what you truly desire in life – you will begin to say no to what you really don’t want more easily.

What will you say YES to today?